Singles, How to Make the Most of the Time

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Have you ever thought about what it means to “redeem the time”? In Ephesians 5:16, we’re told to “redeem the time” (or, as some versions read, “make the most of the time”). Have you ever thought about how this could apply to your life if you’re a Christian single with a desire for marriage?

Waiting is hard. It can be painful, filled with hurt and discomfort. It can be filled with ambiguity. There can be tension in waiting. As Christians, we’re encouraged to “trust in the LORD” with all our hearts (Proverbs 3:5-6), yet nowhere in the Bible are we given the promise of a future spouse. So, with confident expectation, we can do our part, and we can pray, but there’s that other part – the faith part- that means we have to hand over the reins and trust God that He will help with all the other parts in the process that we can’t control.

So what’s that got to do with our time, with redeeming the time or making the most of the time?

It’s my opinion that there’s a lot we can do while we’re waiting. If you’re praying and asking God to bring you a husband or a wife, or you’re asking God to heal your broken heart, I can’t make your prayers come true or fix your broken heart. However, I do think that waiting can be viewed as a time of preparation, rather than desperation. This can give us hope.

Waiting can be viewed as a chance to prepare for what we want – a future season of marriage. If you hope and want for marriage, you can take the opportunities now for making your single life the best that it can be. Don’t settle for dating people who don’t respect you, just because you’re alone. Don’t buy the idea that you are “less than” because you’re not in a relationship. Don’t accept the idea that you have to be in a relationship – you don’t.

You can give yourself some power if you feel uncomfortable with the unknown. I think that being single can give great opportunities for positive change. Focusing on these things while you’re single can allow you to experience blessings in your own life. And, if you get the marriage you’re praying for, the results of these changes could bless your future spouse as well. Here’s what I’m talking about:

Redeeming the Time Financially

If you’re single, why not consider the state of your financial house? If you don’t have financial goals that you’ve thought about, now’s the time to think on it and go for it! Big goals like saving for a house, paying down student debt, building an emergency fund, or being able to give to a charity you have a soft spot for – these are all things you can enjoy doing while you’re single. While you don’t have to stop these things when you get married, being solo means that you’re number one with no one else to answer to. Since I’m single, I expect that if I ever get married, that kind of “Me Only” mentality that I have with my finances would not make for a successful partnership. Having a husband would mean the game would have to change from “me” to “we”.

Redeeming the Time, At Work

Some girls have only one goal in life: get married, have kids, and be a stay-at-home mom. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having that goal. Motherhood is a high and noble calling. Partnerships of families where the mother is home with her young kids, and the kids feel safe and secure – these partnerships can create good kids who grow up to be good people. If this is your goal as a woman – to find a partner, get married, and be a homemaker – how can you redeem the time to that end? I don’t think that eliminates doing your best at a job outside the home. Being able to contribute financially can be an asset to your future household. Ruth, in the Bible, is an excellent example of this. Her second husband, Boaz, would never have met her had he not seen her work ethic displayed when she was gathering food.

Being single can be a great time to accomplish goals and acquire skills that can serve your family, regardless of your parenting plans. I probably never would have been able to finish my college education had I not been single when I was going to school. If I was a working mother with kids to care for, it would have been impossible. I couldn’t have done it; it would have been too much.

For men and women, being single is the perfect time to tackle time-consuming goals. What might you accomplish? Have you been thinking about going back to school, getting an extra certification, learning a new language, or going for a promotion at work? Being single gives you more time to take the steps you might need in order to advance your career before your family needs more of your attention.

Redeeming the Time, Just for Fun

Not everything has to be serious! Some things can be just for fun. Have you thought about starting a side hustle, going mountain biking, starting a website, or learning how to cook? Have you binge watched anything stupid lately, ate breakfast in bed, or re-decorated your bedroom? Would you enjoy doing a service project or clearing out some clutter, Kon-Mari style? Not everything has to have a goal – some things can be just for fun – and when you’re single, you get to be the boss!

I hope that wherever you are in your life, you can find a way to make the most of the time and enjoy it! You’re worth it!

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3 Bible Verses Every Millennial Should Claim

Fox News recently reported about a re-vamp of a popular board game. A longtime favorite for fun (and teaching about personal finance), there was nothing wrong with Monopoly the way it was, but the folks at Hasbro Gaming decided some changes had to be made to the classic game of Monopoly. So, they created “Monopoly for Millennials”.

You’d think maybe this was to account for increases of costs of living and inflation, but not so. You can see for yourself the upset reactions on Twitter as reported by the Blaze. In a nutshell, the “updates” made to the game have been received by many as yet another insult to Millennials, who are quite often the target of public scorn. Regardless of how you feel about the Millennial generation in general, here are some Bible verses I believe Millennials should claim over their lives and keep close to their hearts.

1 Timothy 4 :12  (NKJV) “Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” 

I’m reading this verse on Bible Gateway right now, and just above the verse, it says “Take Heed to Your Ministry.” Do you know what that implies? That you can have a ministry, and you can take care of it. Even if the culture at large wants to stereotype you in a negative way. Even if the news wants to portray your generation in a bad light. You can have a positive impact for Christ. 1 Timothy 4:12 says don’t let anyone drag you down because you’re young. Be an example for the believers. Show others what it means to be an example for the Lord. No matter what you’re doing. Even when others want to disparage you or talk negatively about you.

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Proverbs 16: 9 (NKJV) “A man’s heart plans his way But the LORD directs his steps.”

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As a millennial, you may have planned out your course for your post-college or post-high school life, and things might not have turned out how you planned. A setback that you weren’t prepared for whether it’s high student loan debt, a low starting salary after college, or inability to find any type of job in the field you studied – those are setbacks that a lot of Millennials are dealing with.

Even though we can all plan what we want to do through life, God directs our steps and can help us through the worst of circumstances. This goes for our entire lives, no matter what age we are, whether it’s relationships, career, finances, anything. An amazing example of this is over at the Catholic Mom’s Life channel on YouTube. While marriage may be the furthest thing from your mind, you can see how the Catholic Mom saw God ordering her steps when she tells her story of how she found the perfect guy – or so she thought, since they were engaged – and all along, it turns out that he was NOT the man for her. The Lord ordered her steps, and she eventually became engaged and married to the man she is now happily married to today. So for you, whatever your problem is, turn to the Lord for wisdom, and He can order your steps, no matter what your situation.

Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight.”

Maybe you’re new to walking with Jesus and you’ve got some choices in your past that you wish you could change. As a Millennial, the good news is that time is on your side – your path is wide open ahead! You’ve got time to start living for the Lord if you haven’t been already.

Or maybe you’ve known the Lord your whole life, but you’re questioning why He’s allowed bad things to happen to you in your life while people who seem to care nothing about the things of the Lord are prospering. It may appear that you’re not getting a fair shake at things while people who care nothing about God are having the time of their lives. As Christians, we are encouraged to trust God as we only have limited information on why things are the way they are. We are never asked to put our trust in men, politicians, or the world’s systems to make things right. We are only asked to trust in God to help guide us through our lives.

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